The end of the previous article: “I`m sure because we are all different, you would need other or more answers about your partner before a game. I would go with these and in the first 10 points, those answers will probably come and help to maintain a positive balance of trust.”
So it is my turn. I do not think it would be difficult. I know what I want from my partner so I just need to make sure I do the same thing. In rare cases, I might be right if I believe this. But because there is a good chance that my partner`s requirements will vary compared to mine.
First of all, I do not think this could go without, at least, a slight confrontation. We need to understand that is critical to say to our partner: “Could you avoid trickshots at the net, we have lost the last 3 points so we need consistency now. Just make a netshot they must lift and we can control them with attacking.” You might think then: ” (S)he does not trust in me, or my trickshots. But these shots do work and deceive the opponent and force a weak return at least so we can win the next rally! It will give us hope and boost up adrenaline and…” In this case, you are not listening to the opponent, your partner and yourself.
Is that a coincidence that I missed those trickshots? I know I am good at those but what is happening with me? Are these shots not working against that pair? Should I play these shots after we made them tired? If I continue those shots will that put our performance into risk? What if I not risking and instead of, start working hard to create a winning situation without deception? Am I trust my current abilities enough to dare to play a basic but consistent and forceful game where I will feel more vulnerable? Does my partner lose trust in me if I continue those shots? What if I miss another type of shot? Would that mean that my partner will get frustrated and will make unforced errors because of me?
When you feel weak on the court and lost the trust in yourself. Tell it to your partner. Somehow. We are all here to connect. We came here to perform and everybody would like to win. It is fine if you lost connection with your best performer mindset. Your partner is here to support you and (s)he trusts you if you are drop problems in. There is nothing shameful about having weaknesses. Your partner can accept if you are struggling and can give you advice or some inspiring words about how you generally play.
What they cannot accept if they asked something and in return, you are doing the opposite. So there will be no teamwork after that.
The next and a more advanced layer of trust is when you can talk about your weaknesses on the court to your partner. You no longer feel the need to show strength all the time. You will feel relieved when you play after that. You can admit now that you have bad times and you need help sometimes. It is an extraordinary level and this is the birthplace of legendary performances on the court. There are people who will certainly never enter this level because of the lack of trust in their primary or secondary layers. The tertiary layer makes the miracle in all sports.
So to open the tertiary layer, you need to express your weaknesses to your partner. The hard part is to find a partner who can complete the weak parts of your performance. It is a deeper trust, not recommended to misuse it at all. It may cause a quick end to the partnership. Value what you get, learn to build trust, learn how to fight next to someone when facing a good challenge. It will make you stronger whether you have an occasional or a permanent partner.
End of part five.
I am a vivid psychology lover and always interested in how performance builds up and my interest is not limited to sports. Below I wanted to make a collection of links which are helped me to understand the layers of trust in Badminton. Please see links to the articles here:
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